my opinion on line love

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Network through the Internet romance means they develop love friendship ; yes Internet

after the emergence of new relationships. So special is their relationship does not involve real-life early , for example to meet. Often referred to as online dating.

Online dating right or wrong this problem , in fact, does not belong within the scope of psychological counseling . But just my point of view , without much psychological theory to analyze ! I personally think that online dating is no right or wrong, it's just a form that we love , it is with telephone, letter or other means of communication in love are the same, our love , all in all is to move towards reality .

Of course, in courtship come to our side , we have a correct understanding of the nature and some of its hazards . Why do so many people will be online dating, it is essential that the network is illusory , which is its charm , from a psychological point of view, we will fall in love too idealized object , then it will cause us against each other objective and comprehensive understanding is not enough , there has been harm. Network as a very subtle way of communication , people and heterosexual contacts , from the earliest matchmakers , and later correspondence , telephone contact, to today's network of friends , the difference is that you are more or less the other way you can see, hear, come into contact with each other people and things on the web but you can not have an objective understanding of each other , it will make a lot of moral turpitude who dabbled in online wanton , so many friends suffer emotional harm . Here, we must be aware that some of the problem, and that is the network of concealment , deceptive , sexual depravity , hypocrisy and so on. So I suggest that you, as a channel network is just dating , deeper understanding , or to carry out in real life .

Networks also have certain advantages , it is through the network as well as to marital love can break around the narrow circle of interpersonal relationships , choices have expanded role . Networks Magbish are false , it also has a certain authenticity, for example, access to some of our thinking and behavior , through the network approach may be easier to lay down our masks , real showcase ourselves. And online dating can be made us natural , relaxed exchanges , there is no real life, the kind of shy and shy , so our performance more casual ease and so on.

Courtship illusory charm lies in the network , and the dangers of online dating is precisely in its unreal, if naive to think that the network is a paradise , linger , it will endanger the normal real life , friends, refrain from the online dating seriously !

After all, online dating is rooted in romantic fantasy over a network , at most, only as the spice of life , or side dishes , must not be treated as a meal , if obsessed, would outweigh the benefits.

Indeed, there are online lover really become a real-life lover, and got along well , it is because the two sides in online communication when it did not take much mask, so after meeting the two sides will find little difference between the Internet can Shangqie love abstract image , under the net naturally receptive to real people.

However, not every online dating will end up with a happy ending , more of a \" Jianguang Si .\" Riffraff Tsai once said : The network usually produces three kinds of people . The first will be highlighted on the network of his secondary character, the second person on the network will become his \"hope\" to become the kind of person , the third person on the network will become his \"impossible\" to become the kind of person. So, many people online are wearing masks on the web you like him , in reality, may be another person entirely . So incomplete emotions generated online , online love back to reality is very few successful examples , and friends after that meeting, the result is often tragic . Love in this case the network is no longer rare , occurring shortly before the meeting only to find the original online lover sex farce that is the best example !

Maybe people will argue that this is because they do not distinguish between fantasy and reality , if the courtship control in a bubble , then online dating is still a paradise . This argument is untenable in fact , after all, have feelings of animals, there are several online can tolerate their intimate lovers Rujiaosiqi always so unreal blurred , elusive ; while a few people but also in the love of in calm tell myself that it is online dating, is illusory ; how many people can the cold reality of his own emotions and separate fully as in reality things did not happen ! Especially online marriage and raising concubine , bigamy , compared to inflict psychological pressure is not a small number .

The impact is not just limited to online dating users among long will undoubtedly reduce foaming themselves and their loved ones , friends, colleagues communication time will naturally on their own family, life and work inconvenience. More and more American women began to

complain that their husbands spend a lot of time chatting online and strange woman , so that they never felt family crisis . Private investigator Dan Greathouse said , by the online chat and online communication caused by the \" affair \" is making more and more families disintegrated , he took over the case in 15 % of the \" clandestine \" disaster from the Internet ; many people person addicted to a stranger late at night when the sweet silence , on the side that will be three meals a day for their dishes clean man or woman turned a blind eye . A marriage expert , said: \"The Internet is connecting the world , and it is often triggered by questions about the disconnect .\" Courtship , love for our traditional , family values and the model has brought quite lethal strong shocks.

Courtship , marriage slowly destroyed

Psychology, Beijing Normal University , Dr. innovation and scientific development

\"I'm really overwhelmed, his head is full , even at work when there is no way not to think about him, which in the end is why ah ? We are through the network acquaintance, friend , he was like the wind to be carried go without a trace , in real life have never seen his true face, but he was already deeply occupied my mind. I'm trying to control myself not to turn on the computer , not the Internet, can eventually mysteriously opened, like know what he left \"clues \" , even if it is a little bit, I feel comfortable and I also know that he is also worried about me . \"

This is a married person \"courtship \" case , the heroine is a married woman , but still could not withstand the temptation of the network , fall of the \" courtship\" quagmire . According to Shanghai Divorce Legal Advice Network Latest Statistics show that Shanghai marital affair has an impact on the feelings of the number one killer , and \" online dating \" is the fastest growing way affair , has accounted for two percent of the whole affair .

Affair in real life , by the mainstream values of social criticism , but the hidden nature of the network to provide people with a relatively free space, thus becoming the main way affair . China Women's University Department of Social Work researchers said: \"The highly competitive modern life makes many people feel boring, boring , pressure , dragging immense fatigue but do nothing ; trivial married life husband and wife exchange the topic less and less, men and women are likely to find sheltered bay on the Internet . \"

Some people think that , compared to the reality of the affair , courtship harm smaller , belonging to the scope can be forgiven , is not the case . American psychologist Huaisitebei that

the traditional marriage love should include three main components: passion, intimacy and commitment. Online dating married the traditional view of marriage poses a challenge : the reality of an affair is a passionate pursuit of the promised destruction, and online dating seems to be more soft affair , it is \" living in Cao Ying , Chinese heart \" people in the home , the heart in the online , on the surface , there is no damage to the commitment of marriage , the marriage can find long-lost passion. But online dating so long latent marital problems are not resolved , the marriage is long-term damage . Compared with other forms of extramarital affairs , online marital affair is chronic poisoning .

All in all, online dating with all the problems are the same, no one good or bad, the most important is how to grasp the degree . As long as a good grasp of the degree , then the same can be happy !